How the skills you learn when you go after your ambitions are better than the ambition itself

The skills you learn when you go after your ambitions are better than the ambition itself. I will show you why.

When you consider venturing into your ambitions, i.e. going after your goals, it is scary. And always there’s a lot to deliberate:

  1. There is your present reality – what you have or don’t have. Also, the mind likes pondering on disadvantages and the many odds against you – e.g. you are poor, without a university education, without reputation, no connections, etc.
  2. There is your ambition (where you want to go or the goals you have set for yourself).
  3. Then there is the potential of what you can achieve. This is important and technical. I will make sense as you read on.

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This is what nelson Mandela would say about entrepreneurship – a parody speech

[Read with Nelson Mandela voice. This is a parody speech of Nelson Mandela giving encouragement to entrepreneurs. It never took place]

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In 1952, Oliver Tambo and I decided to become entrepreneurs. We started South Africa’s first black-owned law firm – Mandela & Tambo – right during apartheid.

In the beginning things were hard, I only had 2 suits. So, don’t laugh at the young entrepreneur you see at conferences wearing the same suit over and over again.

Here is some little advice. Buy a black suit if it will be the only one for a long time. Any other colour will give you off – that you wear the same suit all the time. Read more

(A Poem for The Broke) Mundane Loafers, the Face Cringes to Squeeze Tears Out

Wearing my loafers, scarf down to the knees. All black. Obviously feeling good – obviously looking good. I just finished a good and progressive meeting. 4 PM on a groovy Saturday – restaurants are filled with girls on fleek. Hello girls, can I come join you? But there is only money to get home; therefore it’s the only way I can head. Read more

Get this book for free. ‘The Entrepreneur’s Emotional Toolbox’ by David Chislett

My good friend (and unofficial mentor), David Chislett, has penned a very helpful book.

A few years ago when he was in South Africa to visit his family, we met up. And he gave me some great advice I still carry today. The advice was, if you have actively been executing ideas for years, YOU NEED A BREAK AT SOME POINT. Or you will break and burn.

The title of the book is The Entrepreneur’s Emotional Toolbox.’

And guess WHAT? He is availing it as a free download. Click here to go and download it.

“Whether you are a seasoned entrepreneur, or just thinking about going out on your own, this small book is jam packed with tips and tricks and useful strategies to keep you sane and healthy while making a success of your business idea.

This is not a business advice handbook or pocket MBA. It is designed to help anyone who works for themselves or owns their own business, deal with the very real emotional and psychological challenges that come with being a self-starter in a business world dominated by huge corporates.”

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The Science of Cooling Down Your Mental Engine: Gaining Control Over Anxiety and Increasing Creativity/Productivity

Sometimes I literally can feel my mind is overworked – like a car overheating – and frustration and desperation are taking control of my mental engine.

What if like the engine in a car we could turn our mind on and off to cool it down? Or like a computer we can refresh and clear our mental RAM? Read more

Where to Get Help for Anxiety, Depression and Suicide

Where to Get Help for Anxiety – Since publishing ‘The Anxious Entrepreneur’, I’ve been making interesting contacts with people.

I am not a professional anxiety, depression and suicide expert.

If you believe you suffer from anxiety, depression and are having suicidal thoughts, I humbly request that you get help from a trained professional. These are serious conditions you need to attend urgently.

So below follows places to find such help:

SOUTH AFRICA

The organisations below have support groups and/or programmes in various parts of the country. Find out if they do not have support closer to your area.

South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG)

  • Help line: (011) 262-6396 (8am – 8pm, seven days a week)
  • Suicide crisis line: 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393 (8am – 8pm, seven days a week)
  • Website:sadac.org

LifeLine Southern Africa
This is a 24 hour emotional crisis intervention service. It’s free and confidential.

  • National counselling line: 0861-322-322
    Counsellors help callers with challenges such as trauma and suicide.
  • Website: www.lifeline.co.za

INTERNATIONALLY

In each country, there are organisations and support groups that assist people experiencing these conditions. Search and approach them for help. And the prominent ones are mostly free.

If you are in a crisis, I suggest you contact a depression, suicide or emergency helpline in your country.

In any case, here are some online resources you can use (some are free, some are free for the first session and others charge throughout):

7 Cups

Free, anonymous and confidential online text chat with trained listeners, online therapists & counsellors.

Website https://www.7cups.com

Counselo

Assists with depression, sadness and burned out.

Website www.counselo.com

Therapy Tribe

Helps people find great mental health resources like therapists, support groups, wellness tools, as well as an overall sense of community.

Offers a combination of a professional therapist directory as well as self-help wellness resources – all free of charge to the community in need.

Website www.therapytribe.com

Better Help

Convenient, affordable, private online counselling – anytime and anywhere.

Website www.betterhelp.com

The Other Source of Depression

I have always been entrepreneurial. On two separate occasions as a kid I had vegetable gardens. On each, my grandmother, and later her daughter (my mother), gave away almost all my produce and thus succeeded in liquidating my intended businesses. I guess my mother got it from her mother – my grandmother gave it to her daughter.

Among the other things I aspired to be was Jean Claude Van Damme. I didn’t want to be Chuck Norris because he had bushy chest hair. I am 30 today, with medium chest hair. It is even turning white.

How my story should be is: he grew up poor, went to university; he then ventured into business, struggled for a bit of time and then became very successful. “He Read more

You Might Be Preparing to Get Overly Anxious When You Are in Old Age

[Sir] Mick Jagger of the Rolling Stones is 73, has a 6 months old son – Deveraux – apparently conceived on tour, with a 29 year old girlfriend. He is still making music and doing other creative stuff.

Yeah, The Rolling Stones make hundreds of millions touring.

One thing I do not want to be is old and broke or poor. It saddens me when I see old people without any or much financial muscle to buy stuff – either alcohol, clothes, food, helping out their children and/or grandchildren. Their strength and mind renders them unfavourable to job – although not all. Read more