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Get this book for free. ‘The Entrepreneur’s Emotional Toolbox’ by David Chislett

My good friend (and unofficial mentor), David Chislett, has penned a very helpful book.

A few years ago when he was in South Africa to visit his family, we met up. And he gave me some great advice I still carry today. The advice was, if you have actively been executing ideas for years, YOU NEED A BREAK AT SOME POINT. Or you will break and burn.

The title of the book is The Entrepreneur’s Emotional Toolbox.’

And guess WHAT? He is availing it as a free download. Click here to go and download it.

“Whether you are a seasoned entrepreneur, or just thinking about going out on your own, this small book is jam packed with tips and tricks and useful strategies to keep you sane and healthy while making a success of your business idea.

This is not a business advice handbook or pocket MBA. It is designed to help anyone who works for themselves or owns their own business, deal with the very real emotional and psychological challenges that come with being a self-starter in a business world dominated by huge corporates.”

Portrait by Andrew Chislett

At some point, he had reached that pinnacle where he had been executing ideas nonstop, for over ten years. And myself I was approaching that point. He gave me a lot of other tips. They came in handy as I was writing The Anxious Entrepreneur (book).

I’ve known David since 2009 while I was working at Meerkat Media and starting my entrepreneurship journey. He was a freelancer and entrepreneur with many years of experience. I’ve learned a lot from him and everyone in that office since then.

David is, as he says, a writer, trainer and speaker who operates at the intersection of entrepreneurship, creativity and communications.”

Find out more about David Chislett here.

He has written four other books including ‘1, 2, 1, 2: The Step By Step Guide To The SA Music Industry,’ which also is available as a free download (How amazing is that? Tell your music business friends to download it here for free).

Download The Entrepreneur’s Emotional Toolbox.’ You definitely gain a lot from it.

Entrepreneurs’ Immediate Anxiety Cheat Sheet

(Find JPEG image of this cheat sheet at the bottom of the post)

“I am feeling deeply overwhelmed, a headache is knocking, and I am getting flushes of anxiety. I know I should do the following below but I try to reason that I have important things to get done…”

Where to Get Help for Anxiety, Depression and Suicide

Since publishing ‘The Anxious Entrepreneur’, I’ve been making interesting contacts with people.

I am not a professional anxiety, depression and suicide expert.

If you believe you suffer from anxiety, depression and are having suicidal thoughts, I humbly request that you get help from a trained professional. These are serious conditions you need to attend urgently.

So below follows places to find such help:

SOUTH AFRICA

The organisations below have support groups and/or programmes in various parts of the country. Find out if they do not have support closer to your area.

South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG)

  • Help line: (011) 262-6396 (8am – 8pm, seven days a week)
  • Suicide crisis line: 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393 (8am – 8pm, seven days a week)
  • Website:sadac.org

LifeLine Southern Africa
This is a 24 hour emotional crisis intervention service. It’s free and confidential.

  • National counselling line: 0861-322-322
    Counsellors help callers with challenges such as trauma and suicide.
  • Website: www.lifeline.co.za

INTERNATIONALLY

In each country, there are organisations and support groups that assist people experiencing these conditions. Search and approach them for help. And the prominent ones are mostly free.

If you are in a crisis, I suggest you contact a depression, suicide or emergency helpline in your country.

In any case, here are some online resources you can use (some are free, some are free for the first session and others charge throughout):

7 Cups

Free, anonymous and confidential online text chat with trained listeners, online therapists & counsellors.

Website https://www.7cups.com

Counselo

Assists with depression, sadness and burned out.

Website www.counselo.com

Therapy Tribe

Helps people find great mental health resources like therapists, support groups, wellness tools, as well as an overall sense of community.

Offers a combination of a professional therapist directory as well as self-help wellness resources – all free of charge to the community in need.

Website www.therapytribe.com

Better Help

Convenient, affordable, private online counselling – anytime and anywhere.

Website www.betterhelp.com

Another Source of Depression

I have always been entrepreneurial. On two separate occasions as a kid I had vegetable gardens. On each, my grandmother, and later her daughter (my mother), gave away almost all my produce and thus succeeded in liquidating my intended businesses. I guess my mother got it from her mother – my grandmother gave it to her daughter.

Among the other things I aspired to be was Jean Claude Van Damme. I didn’t want to be Chuck Norris because he had bushy chest hair. I am 30 today, with medium chest hair. It is even turning white.

How my story should be is: he grew up poor, went to university; he then ventured into business, struggled for a bit of time and then became very successful. “He

[My] 7 Top Articles Helpful to Entrepreneurs in Admitting and Dealing With Anxiety and Depression

From all levels of start-up to big success in entrepreneurship, there exists a dark cloud often not talked about. It is anxiety and depression.

At worst, I’ve read stories of very successful and unsuccessful entrepreneurs committing suicide.

Entrepreneurship can be gruesome.

You Might Be Preparing to Get Overly Anxious When You Are in Old Age

[Sir] Mick Jagger of the Rolling Stones is 73, has a 6 months old son – Deveraux – apparently conceived on tour, with a 29 year old girlfriend. He is still making music and doing other creative stuff.

Yeah, The Rolling Stones make hundreds of millions touring.

One thing I do not want to be is old and broke or poor. It saddens me when I see old people without any or much financial muscle to buy stuff – either alcohol, clothes, food, helping out their children and/or grandchildren. Their strength and mind renders them unfavourable to job – although not all.

Tiisetso Maloma interview on Baby Got Booked Podcast – How to Stop Anxiety from Holding You Back

tiisetso-maloma-interview-on-baby-got-booked-podcast

Hello.

I got interviewed on the Baby Got Booked Podcast, hosted by Canadian entrepreneur and PR expert – Geeta Nadkarni.

I had much fun talking about themes for reducing anxiety in one’s entrepreneurship hustle, and my book – The Anxious Entrepreneur. Geeta is just awesome.

Click here to download the podcast.

N.B. It was before the book came out.

14 Stoicism Quotes that Help Heal Anxiety

This is an extract from my latest and fourth book, The Anxious Entrepreneur.

Entrepreneurship is a nerve wracking business. Entrepreneurs are always anxious about multiple things. They have goals and therefore expectations, but it is known that things cannot go according to one’s wishes, plans, desires, needs or desperation all the time.

Expectations are rarely met and subconsciously, when they aren’t, we are shaken. It is an opportune window for anxiety or even depression to set in, depending on the severity or extent of the misfortune.

10 Quotes to Help You Deal with Worry and Anxiety

This is an extract from my latest and fourth book, The Anxious Entrepreneur.

The following are some of my favourite quotes which, I believe, more or less speak to that anxiety defeats creativity and also that creativity can defeat anxiety.

 “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace” -Randy Armstrong.

To have peace today, you have to do the things that have meaning to you and help you to fulfil a part of you.

If your passion is to sing, but you work at a call centre, sing in the morning or after work – everyday or any number of days in the week.

I have learned

Gain productivity, creativity and joy – defeat anxiety and stress: The Anxious Entrepreneur book

Get  The Anxious Entrepreneur on Amazon, Apple iBookstore and Kobo.co.za. South Africans can order here www.tiisetsomaloma.com/anxiousbook.

It was at about 3:35 pm. I felt I was about to faint or have a panic attack. The day was not going well. Over and above, I was overly tired.

It had been weeks since I had any ‘win’. Therefore I needed to hustle people on the phone even if it was 4:00 pm. I was desperate. For goodness’ sake, that time is around knock off time. A business pitch is the last thing they would want to hear.

An earlier rejection email had heightened the panic. All these triggered my mind to think I have no hope: immediately, I time travelled to the past and the future. I saw no advantage of what my past has brought to today and I saw no light in my future.

Anxiety invades our productivity and therefore our goals. All it takes is to not see progress in a day, then a week or a month. The next thing you know, you are standing at the peak of the highest anxiety hill, depressingly recalling your record of failures and doubting your future.

This book goes through what to do to counter such episodes – and below are things you can do now:

  1. Start the day with personal fulfilment activities
  2. Work on ‘business potential’ tasks early on and for a fixed time
  3. Escape frustration tasks
  4. Use people’s energies to defuse anxieties

The book’s theme and of which is the subtitle is ‘Anxiety Defeats Creativity – Creativity Defeats Anxiety.’ It means we can actively defuse our career anxieties through applying creativity.

Hi, my name is Tiisetso Maloma and I’ve been an anxious entrepreneur for over ten years – and I’ve written expansively on entrepreneurship, creativity, anxiety, marketing and self improvement.

Over time, our anxiety builds up; it either implodes or explodes. My anxiety has gotten me to those points several times.

Entrepreneurship is one of the toughest careers in the world a person can follow. It can get severely stressing, especially when things are not going according to plan – which is probably most of the time.

Entrepreneurs, rightfully so, are always focused on achieving certain goals. We pursue opportunities that we think are lucrative and this creates great expectations. We thus pine over visions, we obsess about how to reach those goals and even go as far as imagining how many units our products will sell.

The funny thing is, nobody has control over reality and things don’t always pan out the way we had envisioned them. Subconsciously, we are shaken when our expectations are not met and this gets us anxious and at times depressed.

It should not come as a surprise that entrepreneurs are more prone to mental pains than the general population. A study entitled ‘Are Entrepreneurs Touched with Fire’ by Dr Michael Freeman, surveyed 242 entrepreneurs; 174 (72%) of them had mental health concerns, 118 (49%) had one or more lifelong mental health condition and 13 (5.4%) of them were suicidal – the numbers are rounded off.

In contrast to entrepreneurs, the world’s lifetime depression prevalence, as measured by the World Health Organization, ranges from 3% to 17%.

This book tells of several anxiety-causing incidents, set in different situations. It is a collection of anecdotes, emotions, feelings, frustrations and philosophies that will show you that, when anxiety is removed from your entrepreneurial process, creativity reaches its optimum.

The Anxious Entrepreneur is for aspiring and start-up entrepreneurs. It will get you in tune with the ventures you love and introduce you to robust ways of pursuing them.

Unintentionally, this book is also about marketing and branding, which remains a headache for entrepreneurs, especially start-ups.

It is also about:

  • Ways of coming up with unthought-of opportunities
  • Keeping you going with the bare essentials and making progress with limited resources
  • Tapping into your potential and making good ground
  • How to gain the hustle and refuel it
  • Testing business ideas without committing massive resources
  • How not to let the fear of ‘failure reputation’ stop and throttle you
  • Tactful networking

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I went to sleep. I played the movie 300 so it can get me to doze off. I am a comedy guy and action movies usually make me sleep. I tend to use them as sleeping pills.

When I woke up, I was feeling better. I even played Donny Hathaway’s rendition of ‘To be Young, Gifted and Black’. It always soothes me. Always! Later on, I checked my emails and I had new business…

Get  The Anxious Entrepreneur on Amazon, Apple iBookstore and Kobo.co.za. South Africans can order here www.tiisetsomaloma.com/anxiousbook.

My other books are Forget the Business Plan Use this Short Model, Township Biz Fastrack and Tales of an African Entrepreneur.

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Tiisetso Maloma is the creator of EBC Business Model and Business Me Young course. He contributes to mediums such Huffington Post and Biz Community.

He founded several businesses including Gabble Heights, Bula Buka and Startup Picnic.

Tiisetso is a versed consultant, writer and speaker on entrepreneurship, creativity, millennial business development and development economics.

As an entrepreneurship activist he’s worked with organisations such as Standard Bank, The Innovation Hub, The Hope Factory and Ndalo Media.

 

 

The Man who Fed his Child with the Face of the Mother, A Metaphor for Creativity

The Joker

No, it wasn’t The Joker.

4 Ways for Entrepreneurs to Defuse Anxiety

These points are extracted from my fourth book, The Anxious Entrepreneur.

It was at about 3:35 pm. I felt I was about to faint or have a panic attack. The day was not going well. Over and above, I was overly tired.

It had been weeks since I had any ‘win’. Therefore I needed to hustle people on the phone even if it was 4:00 pm. I was desperate. For goodness’ sake, that time is around knock off time. A business pitch is the last thing they would want to hear.

A rejection email had heightened the panic. All these triggered my mind to think I have no hope: immediately, I time travelled in the past and the future. I saw no advantage of what my past has brought to today and I saw no light in my future.

Below is what I do to counter such episodes.